Dear Teresa,
please find attached an example of a fighter unit (I./JG 300) "Namentliche Verlustmeldung". It took me a while to find one with a "good mixture" of married/unmarried cases.
The list gives 5 names. No 1 is slightly wounded, the other 4 KIA.
In column 20 ("Bemerkungen" = "remarks") you find the 'relatives" info.
No 2 to 4 were married, for no 5 the father is listed as 'next of kin'.
Regards, Uwe K.
Edit 6.4.2018:
Attachement removed by author, since Teresa has already seen it - my "mission" is completed. 
. Uwe K.